
I first came to China with my university study abroad program. I had never been to Asia before and wanted to get the most out of my time. I decided that I wanted to experience the “real” China and shunned western food for hole-in-the wall “local” restaurants. I even considered moving into a run down apartment complex and living with 4 Chinese people in a room; I thought that this was what it meant to be Chinese.
China is a third world developing nation. Almost nothing is up to first world standards, but that is understandable as they don’t have the resources to be. There are many restaurants that are bug infested, companies and banks that aren’t up to date with the latest technology, streets that are dirty, and cash is still king. I used to bundle all of these experiences up in a “culture” package and call that understanding.
But this is not Culture; This is the Third World.
If you don’t make the distinction between what is the contributing factor to your experience, i.e is it Chinese culture or is it third world country, then you will find it hard to like or understand Chinese culture, or Vietnamese culture, or any culture at all. The reverse is the same: you have to distinguish between what is first world and what is American. When most people think wasteful consumerism they think America, but it is not unique to America at all, but rather the same for any country or any person who has a lot of money. You will end up blaming things on culture that perhaps were exactly the same in America/Europe/wherever 30-100 years ago.

I used to believe that Chinese culture meant dirty restaurants, uncomfortable living, and poor business practices. Now that I can separate culture from prosperity (people from money), I have realized that actually what I was seeing was poverty and I dislike it, but I love Chinese culture. When I adopt this mindset to make judgements about things around me I become cheerful and positive about China, instead of thinking about how much I want to like China but don’t. I no longer force myself into uncomfortable situations and instead allow myself comfort. I no longer blame things on culture, but instead accept things that are due to lack of prosperity, push them aside, and focus on positive things in culture that have flourished in spite of poverty. I know that I understand and love Chinese people and see a bright future for them.
If I were here to learn about poverty and how to help people in need, I may be willing to give up my own comfort and live side by side with those I look to help; however, I am not here for that. I am here to learn about the people, and by attaching their worth to the number in their bank account (or their education, etc) I am wronging them from the start. In the same way, Americans are not their abundance of money.
Look past the money and the living situation and into what their culture really represents, and even more importantly what values each person that you meet holds. This is hard even for me still, as it’s hard to see past dirty, smelly clothes, a thick accent, missing teeth, and an obvious lack of education. Remember though, and this is a reminder for myself as much as everyone else, that teeth can be replaced, clothes can be washed, accents can be fixed, and writing can be learned. Be conscious of what lense you are seeing people through, and strip the money out of your equation.
I can see clearer now that the green is gone.
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